my serious thoughts on moderation and stuff is this: I've done it a lot in the past, I've done the being very reasonable bit and trying hard to be fair bit and the responding graciously to (typically) cis men patronising or insulting me while believing they are respectful, or thinking they can debate their way out of a ban. And what I learned is, sometimes, you just need to take the piss. Often, it means they skip the debate part and go straight to insulting you, and at least that's more honest
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•They are under no obligation to behave in a certain way, for instance, not make jokes about topics like this. Or not laugh at getting silly reports.
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•Joking about unpopular opinions was making a specific point about the idea that you should be able to discuss topics like, trans rights say, where you can voice an objectionable opinion, but if you are "civil", it's fine. This is a terrible idea, and those of us who have been around the internet long enough or on the receiving end of polite bile know this
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My list of blocked servers is pretty short. On purpose.
But there's a damn good reason my most common reason is "fuck 'em" - it's because usually *I'm* tired, and just don't wanna deal with someone's shit.
And sure - maybe "Mods are asleep" - but fundamentally - my moderation practices are what brings me joy. And often ban hammering an instance is more fun than talking to people who sometimes turn out to be racists and transphobes.
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•And yeah, the people most vocally opposed to this structure are usually the people you don’t want around anyway.
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•But then even back then we had people attempting to take over forums and control the 'narrative' as it were, as well as hounding out people they found 'undesirable'. Your comments have me thinking that this kind of attempted control on group think does seem to be a human thing. Its almost certainly the thing that drove me from Facebook, and its illustrated most beautifully on there and NextDoor.
Ironically, in the evolution of human social (...)
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•so i often play the childlike naïf as a way of handling the fact that, whether cognizant of their true intent or no, all these liberty deniers want is to do exactly that: deny others liberty.
the naïf thing is also a way to turn ragebaiters angy. they want me to be angry so they feel smug. instead i go, “i don’t get it why do you choose to do this” with as much genuine curiosity and no other emotions as possible because i want to know. their brains bluescreen.
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•Not gonna lie and claim seeing their reactions isn’t entertaining, but that’s actually not my primary objective.
I engage in derad as a hobby. (Until I get paid for it, it’s a hobby. Admittedly my hobbies are weird.)
Only way to break through radicalization is one on one and defying expectations in actions, not words.
When it works it’s amazing but it’s also a commitment in time and energy.