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Question for the dads out there: if we - with preparation, of course, steeling ourselves and approaching the task with resolve - if we throw away that container of random old nuts, bolts and screws. Do we ever recover from that, emotionally, or do we just live with its loss?

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in reply to mhoye

in my experience I found that I was suddenly imbued with a new classic go-to whenever I needed anything that may have ended up in that container by commenting on how I knew I never should have gotten rid of that container because there was probably just the thing I needed in that dang container. it's a good substitute and it saves having to dig through the container.
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I was more attached to my grandfather's sockets and wrenches, many redundant, not all of good quality. It took an act of courage to let (most of them) go.

My nuts and bolts collection is frustrating me. It never has the part I want anymore. Might be time to part with it as well.

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I mean, I have acquired some screws and bolts, but I never have the nut I need since the divorce πŸ˜ˆπŸ˜€
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I think it's like knowing when to take microwave popcorn out of the oven. If more than N time passes between useful picks from the container, you can throw it out.

(I seem to have exhausted all the useful bolt/nut pairs from such container, and all that remains is things that don't fit anywhere. I should really throw it out.)

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we recover, but the universe immediately creates a need for one of the fasteners just thrown away. So a trip to one of the awful identical* hardware counters at Rona/Home Depot/Canadian Tire will be required. Either way they're going to take up psychic space.

*: I'm pretty sure all those fastener aisles are a franchise, and are uniquely awful in Ontario because square drive. Readers in the US can be smug about ACE Hardware. Readers in Kitchener can be smug because they have Spaenaur

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I have your answer:

Based on empirical evidence (I left behind a few tins of assorted hardware 20 years ago when we moved halfway around the world) you do not get over this. It's a mortal blow that kills slowly.

Don't do it. It's just one bucket.

in reply to mhoye

You can try throwing away that container but it'll be back before you know it.
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Moved all* my old bolts and screws to an old tackle box.
Pros: Organized!
No longer "box of old useless shit" but "box that saves us a $50 trip to Mitre 10";
I get a new tackle box;)
Cons: it's bloody heavy.

*Possibly not all of them.

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Maybe relevant: youtube.com/shorts/HbZGTSc_buU…
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Is this like the cookie tin full of grandma’s buttons?

(We inherited multiple coffee tins full of the previous homeowner’s random nuts, bolts, and screws. We’ve been meaning to sort them for twenty years…)

in reply to mhoye

I never have ever thrown them away. Neither did my father, though he enjoyed more space to work within. I can't answer the question.
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why not instead create a series of labelled jars to group them by size, type, finish, material, etc. and thus bring order to chaos, a bulwark against the knowledge thatβ€”while entropy is relentless and all things must end, even usβ€”we can, for a time, be a beacon of light and hope in the cold and empty darkness of an uncaring universe?
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@daedalus
This is the way. Label tape printers = an incantation to invoke an ordered universe.
@JP
in reply to mhoye

nope, we sort it all into neat separated boxes, organized by length, diameter, thread, application and drive type

Except the slot-drive screws, which can be safely filed into the recycling

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@frang also, next week you'll find a need for the bolt you just threw out.
If you didn't throw it out, you would have the need for it.
It's "Quantum" or something.
in reply to mhoye

[small voice] why does no one ever think to ask the nuts, bolts, and screws how _they_ feel?

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genuinely surprised no one here has shamed you for not putting a CW on this

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if you strike one down, two will rise up in its place.
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I have this thought about by box of RS-232 adapters. 9- to 25-pin, null modem, USB and PS/2 adapters, etc.
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I personally guarantee that you will be shopping for screws, bolts or widgets the very next day, and you'll wonder what you've done.
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Nah I still need those. Just a month ago two washers came in handy. The box stays right where it is.
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you know what happens next? What happens next is that you find yourself needing one of those bolts, and go to AliExpress and buy one of those huge mixed-bolts-screws-and-nuts assortments, use the only one you actually needed and then you're back to square one
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Extending Mizuta Masahide:

Barn's burned down
now I can see the moon
(and pluck hardware from the ashes)

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Each time a project stalls out for lack of the correct hardware, the pain of that decision will flood through you as if you had just made it. Each time you stand in line at the hardware store clutching a little bag of shiny new machine bolts the bile will rise in your throat and choke you. The best you can hope for is to persist, happiness will be elusive.
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might be a bit personal, and I don't want to hijack the thread...but...how about some photos?

Of your random nuts, bolts, screws, nails and assorted fasteners container?

in reply to mhoye

It Depends.
Have you sourced all common size screws and bolts in your measurement system of choice (imperial/metric) and have adequate coverage of possible necessary lengths, thread pitch and drive types all labelled and sorted? Then no problem-go for it-you won’t notice the loss.
Otherwise….
lol.
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Getting rid of all the unsorted nuts, bolts, screws, washers, etc. will be transcendent moment that will leave you feeling amazingly spiritually lighter. You are then doomed forever to have to drive to the hardware store every other week to buy exactly two bolts and nuts.
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We just live with its loss. One day those old imperial measurement pieces will be needed, but by then we will either get them new from local or online, or excitingly get the chance to tap a new thread and create a bolt or screw from scratch!
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in my experience throwing away that container mearly reveals the similar container behind it.
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