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Becky
Becky friendica
It's certainly strange to be a part of such collective emotional struggling. I start messages with "hope you're okay" instead of "how are you?" to remove the obligation to answer in the question (probably by lying, bc who actually is okay?).. at least with a statement ppl can avoid it if they want to. I've also always seen mental health struggles as very valid bc of my own struggles being so nonsensical in cause... but not everyone does. I imagine it must be especially challenging for those who see it as invalid
Becky
Becky friendica
I think the recovery over these times will mean it's especially important to support collectively (only what you have the capacity to and when you have that capacity), since it's a collective suffering we're in. There are people who will need more connection in more complicated ways than others because of differences in many different variables. I believe that it will take a community of some sort to rebuild, and it'll be important to reach out to ppl in ways to facilitate that
Hypolite Petovan
Hypolite Petovan • friendica (via ActivityPub)
I think it's important to remember that this is a public network, and as such people will behave differently than in private and the question "how are you?" is more challenging to answer in this context. So the "Hope you're okay" is doubly better in my opinion, by removing not only the pressure to answer, but more importantly the pressure to answer publicly which is a completely different ballgame.
Becky
Becky friendica
Oh yeah, that definitely makes sense to me. I was mostly referencing society at large when I said collectively, although it is definitely more in my radar being on social media the ways in which you see people struggling. That said, I'm not sure it would've occured to me to post the question "how are you?" publicly. I've mostly changed my language there in text messages and DMs to friends... but definitely I agree it changes the expectation significantly to ask that question publicly